Touch Wood.
Hello,
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So we have reached Saturday.
I hope that you are one of the lucky ones who can now enjoy long hours in which to do whatever pleases you the most.
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This morning I met one of my friends when I was shopping.
Sadly, we do not see each other very often now, because her life is full of stuff she must do, even though she is also getting noticeably older….just like me!
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She is often on her way to visit her mother, who is resident in a care home for the older people who suffer from Dementia.
It is sad to listen to her telling me that the old lady now does not seem to remember who her visitors are, and how she can now get very quarrelsome if she is not carefully conversed with, as there are so many things that enrage and upset her as she mostly does not understand where she is or the life she has lived.
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It is a ghastly thing to see someone you love going down the path of senility, where everything that made them unique and vibrant is slowly lost.
Both of my own parents would get very confused in the period before they died and it is heartbreaking to see it happening to people you care for.
I used to childishly ask myself ‘Why can’t everything just stay the same forever’.
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It seems to happen to so many old people now, because we can combat many of the conditions people used to die of, and so many middle aged children are now desperately trying to cope with the situation in an acceptable way.
Unfortunately, once a relative is doing things like going out alone in the middle of the night because they think it is daytime, and putting themselves at risk, it is often not possible for the people concerned to cope any longer, and they then often have to deal with feelings of awful guilt because they cannot do the impossible.
It is a dreadful situation to go through.
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There are many websites which could possibly help, especially for those full-time carers who feel that they are unappreciated, and cannot get help, or a break, or any kind of personal life…..such as ….
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There are people who have been in these situations and have written books about their experience of dealing with people suffering the results of Dementia and Alzheimer’s.
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The newest book I have read about is by a lady called Marianne Talbot, which is to be published soon by Hay House.
The title is a descriptive…’Keeping Mum: Caring For Someone With Dementia’….£8.99.
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As for me, I shall assiduously keep on trying to avoid such a thing.
Touch Wood!
J,x.
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